Helping our kids think on-purpose about their new class/subject teachers is priceless.
It’s so easy to make quick judgements and first impressions which can morph into long lasting opinions. We all do it, but we would prefer teen impressions of significant people in their lives, to fall in favour of their young hearts and minds and pave the way for a year of safe learning, success and belonging.
Let’s help our tweens and teens embark on their own ‘find-out-more’ mission about their teachers. This is a skill and approach to life which will serve them well in so many situations in years to come – with coaches, managers at work, in further study, with colleagues and of course with friends. But to do this, they’ll need our help. They’ll need us to assist them to scaffold their thinking, so to lessen knee-jerk reactions and decisions, which have the potential to block their JOY.
I talk about ‘finding out more’ in my book for teens –ROC & RISE. It’s a very popular and game-changing section indeed! 📚
📚Tip- Avoid (not eliminate) these types of questions- 👉🏼Do you like your teacher? 👉🏼Is your teacher nice? 👉🏼What do think of your teacher? 👉🏼Is your teacher any good? -These questions will more often than not trigger an emotion-based response and as we know, teen emotions can run their own crazy race and have the potential to pull them into an unhelpful rabbit hole and hold them there too!
📚Tip-Ask more of these questions- 👉🏼Did you see your teacher helping someone who needed a hand today? 👉🏼Can you remember your teacher being patient in a tricky situation? 👉🏼How did your teacher try to explain a complicated idea in science? 👉🏼What did your teacher do today that you’re grateful for? 👉🏼How did your teacher show kindness in form-room this afternoon? 👉🏼What do you appreciate about your teacher? 👉🏼Is there something you notice about your teacher that makes him/her unique?
This is definitely worth a try. Teenagers who have experimented and practiced this style of curious thinking – like it. The ripple effect can be powerful beyond words, especially knowing we want our kids to feel safe and as comfy as they can be with their school teachers. It’s not a fix-all or one size fits all, but it’s worth playing around with.
This idea is shared with teens in Claire’s book ROC and RISE. Endorsed by Maggie Dent and loved by teenagers and their families worldwide.
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