ROC TIP… when we’re chatting about  the school day, consider NOT asking the one size fits all
‘Go-to’ Question- ‘Was it fun?’ It’s great when the answer is a resounding YES, not so great when it’s flat and sad NO!

Outdoor portrait of two talking boys teenagers 15, 16 years old

You see we want our young teenagers to understand and appreciate that not everything they need to learn, take part in or experience at school (or life for that matter) is FUN, triggering a big surge of adrenaline and dopamine within them. Removing that unrealistic expectation keeps life real and encourages the rewiring teenage brain to be more creative, patient and accepting. Life is full of fast and fun, boring and beige, and it’s this complex mix that creates a healthy balance of ups, downs, highs and lows.

Sometimes life is about showing up to boring, blah and plain old mundane routine. That’s life, always has been, always will be. We need these moments so we can appreciate the high times when smiles are in abundance and laughter’s all around.

They key is the personal attitude, effort and energy that we choose to bring to the blah. Practicing personal mindset choice keeps teenagers more in control of their own learning and ultimately, forging an empowered gateway to what’s possible for them. It’s in these moments of boredom that resilience is built, as neural pathways in the brain are layered in memories reminding teenagers to push through, find their own drive from within and of course build their own habits of intrinsic motivation.

Of course, FUN is great, and who doesn’t want more in their live? But it’s not always a part of everything we do in life.
Education, learning, sport, training, cleaning, chores, food shopping, cooking or subjects in the school day isn’t always layered in fun.

Let’s not condition our kids to expect/demand fun be delivered to them in every subject, lesson or activity and ultimately become an essential pre-requisite to their learning … this is a dangerous habit with the potential to cause disappointment at every corner.

Instead let’s ask our kids –
How did you show up today?
What was your energy like in ….. this afternoon?
How did you get the most out of ……?
Turn their thoughts around so they can regulate themselves from the inside out and take more control of their own mental, social and emotional fitness.

ROC thoughts.
ROC choice.
ROC attitude.

🌟The only thing our teens can control is SELF and that’s a mighty strong position to be in, so they can ROC and RISE in life.

This idea is shared with teens in Claire’s book  ROC and RISE. Endorsed by Maggie Dent and loved by teenagers and their families worldwide.

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